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Intimate relationships where cPTSD is involved are

Intimate relationships where cPTSD is involved aren’t that easy to built.
To find the balance between autonomy and deep connection is a quest.
Before you know there’s an entanglement starting at the moment you start to surrender.
Especially in relationships with partners that have an unsafe attachment style and childhood trauma. The anxious types want to merge, the avoidant types want theirs individualism, and the disorganized types are stuck in the paradoxal force between these two.
The more you get into the field of intimate connection, the more you will be confronted with unconscious patterns of the childhood attachment.
The art of to relate to each other, is to center yourself again and again. And stay out of the drama of judging, victimization, pleasing and seduction.
In relationships driven by higher forms of Love and awareness, insecure attachment styles can be healed. Nevertheless it takes a lot of effort, awareness and compassion of both partners.
#relationship #attachement #cptsdrecovery #lovingkindness #compassionaterelationships

Ready for morning meditation. #vipassana #silenc

Ready for morning meditation.

#vipassana #silence #meditationretreat

Vanmiddag 14.30u Facebook live, zitten met een res

Vanmiddag 14.30u Facebook live, zitten met een resoluut voornemen. Een uur lang zitten zonder te bewegen (verzitten), wat er ook langs komt.

Doe je ook mee? Of vind je het te warm? 😅☀️

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#vipassana #meditation #retreat #virya #adhitthana #metta #satipaṭṭhāna

Ready for interviews #vipassana #meditation #retre

Ready for interviews
#vipassana #meditation #retreat

In de herhaling: Dagelijks twee keer per dag een

In de herhaling:

Dagelijks twee keer per dag een live uitzending tijdens onze 10-daagse vipassana retraite. Zodat je mee kunt resoneren en mee kunt oefenen.

Van 14.30 - 15.30 de door mij begeleide middag sessie. Een kwartier begeleiding en de rest van het uur in stilte zitten (of korter als jou dat te lang duurt).

Van 18.30 - 19.30 de Dhamma teaching begeleid door Guus.

Er zit een opbouw in dus probeer ze in volgorde te kijken. Ze blijven op mijn tijdlijn staan dus je kunt ze ook op een andere tijd kijken.
‘Live’ meedoen is natuurlijk fijner voor het resonantie effect 😊🤗🙏🏼

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Delen mag.

#vipassana #dhamma #meditatie

We hebben de smaak te pakken. Van 18.30u - 19.30

We hebben de smaak te pakken.

Van 18.30u - 19.30u gaan wij weer live.
Nu met Guus in de hoofdrol met de tweede teaching van deze retraite.

#vipassana #stilteretraite #dhammatalk

Onze zomerretraite is begonnen op een nieuwe locat

Onze zomerretraite is begonnen op een nieuwe locatie 😊

Vanwege de COVID beperkingen was er slechts plek voor 12 spirituele krijgers (ipv 24). Met meer dan 35 mensen op de wachtlijst zijn er dus veel die niet mee kunnen doen. En er zullen er vast meer zijn die deze wens hebben.

Daarom streef ik ernaar om dagelijks tussen 14.30u en 15.30u de begeleide middagsessie te delen in een Facebook live uitzending. Mits de internet snelheid het toelaat natuurlijk.

Dus wil je mee resoneren en deels meedoen met deze 10 dagen vipassana meditatie, dan kun je vanaf je eigen plek mee mediteren.

#vipassana #stilteretraite #mindfulness #dhamma #mahasisayadaw #anicca #dukkha #anatha

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Everything has a begin, a middle and an end. Toda

Everything has a begin, a middle and an end.
Today, I gave my last sessions in Medisch Kwartier in Naarden vesting.
Although I’ve enjoyed worked at this place since 2015, I quit to give myself space and stability for the next steps in Harderwijk.

#selfcare #traumatherapy #lettinggo #openingfornew

Morning meditation Lightness is entering gradually

Morning meditation
Lightness is entering gradually.
The good thing of daily meditation routine is that it creates a stability of mind.
Actually it doesn’t matter if you join a retreat or have your daily practice. In a retreat the development of insight is accelerating but that’s also possible at home. It only takes more time. It’s about a path you walk and the hours you make to walk it, every stap matters.
On the other hand is a vipassana retreat helpful to adapt to the dhamma on a profound level. The combination of the practice and the teachings will lead you back on the path where you left it.
The invitation is to translate your spiritual practice in daily life. Can you be kind and compassionate with all the challenges life will give you? Are you able to have wholesome acts of kindness while nobody is watching?
#sila #samadhi #pañña #dhamma #vipassana #metta #anicca #dukkha #anatha #karuna #traumahealing #piti #opening

Dark ages In trying to meet the inner dragons, da

Dark ages

In trying to meet the inner dragons, darkness appeared.

The core existential fears came up and led me info the dissociative world from my childhood. A surrealistic reality took over as if I was dreaming. The dreams where common as I recognized them from the past. It’s strange to remember dreams from the past while I’m awake.

On top of that, the fear made me vulnerable to self judgement about some of my actions. And to make it more complicated, I found out that the motivation behind this quest was self judgement formed out of the fear of abandonment. So every time I have to remember loving kindness and compassion towards myself.

No one can make me happy but myself someone told me. Of course I know but some part deep down in me wasn’t able to believe that because it’s attached to this existential fear. The good part of it is that’s in my reach. I’m able to feel it and dive info it which wasn’t possible before.

Last Sunday a good friend of mine could give me faith and clearance to resist this period of drawing back into the deep layers of my soul.

Grateful for her guiding me, I keep on going and jump into the black hole again and again.

Somewhere deep down there light is shining. I can’t see it yet but I know it’s there. ✨✨

#faith #selflove #compassion #deepsouldiving #abandoment #dissociation #selfhealing #friendship #cptsd #innerdragons #innerguidance #darknightofthesoul #spiritualwarrior #challengingmodi #independent #standonmyown

For about 5 months my breakfast is a green or red

For about 5 months my breakfast is a green or red smoothie and I love it.

This morning it consists of
beets for regulating bloodpressure, mango for the taste 😁,
banana for magnesium,
celery for fluid retention,
avocado for fats,
coconut milk for MCT’s,
baobabpowder for potassium, hempseed for omega 3 and 6, chiaseeds for all the above benefits.

It helps me to startup the day and it gives direct energy and body care in my whole foods plant based diet.

#wholefoodplantbased #morningroutine #vegan #traumasensitivedietetics #traumahealing

Waiting for my client. During therapy we practice

Waiting for my client.
During therapy we practice the art of mindfulness meditation in combination with body oriented therapy (Somatic Experiencing).

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