It strikes me that the people who come into my practice often resist the diagnosis they have been given. They all agree; a diagnosis makes them sick.
When I read reports of people who have resigned themselves to their diagnosis, it strikes me that they have adapted themselves to what the therapists want from them. As docile cattle, they work their way through the protocolled treatments, fully trusting that this ‘evidence based’ method will help them further.
Often it goes no further than accepting that they will never get rid of their disorder and have to learn to live with it.
For me this is a sickening system in which people are put in a pigeonhole they can’t get rid of.
But what if they look beyond the symptoms that someone shows. What happened in someone’s life? How did this person learn to survive in an often unsafe environment in which he or she grew up? What are the traumas that developed from this? What about the sutures? And what is going on in this person’s current life, which is sickening.
If you actively search for the answers to these questions, a completely different process arises in which the person may feel seen and heard for the first time.
If you then also investigate what this person’s deep desire is, what needs are not being fulfilled, then a healing process can begin that takes place outside the beaten frameworks of the CBT schemes and all other methods.
Healing does not take place in a protocol. Healing takes place in human contact, in which mutual respect is leading.